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Paul, Quit CoachNov 06, 2017 @ 10:00 AM
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Hi everyone,

Thank you for your responses. I would say I was a little surprised at the consistency of willpower/determination being the key, but after giving it further thought, it makes sense. 

If readiness to quit is a combination of the importance of quitting and confidence, then the support, preparation, NRT, etc., are all contributors to one's confidence, which also affects a person's ability to keep the willpower up. 

There are times when the support your receive does tend to lessen, you may no longer have NRT, you might not be prepared for all situations that arise, and so you may have a temporary reduction in your confidence to keep going.

That being the case, your willpower will inevitably have to carry you through some situations from time to time, both at the beginning of the quit, but also here and there as you continue on.

It's amazing how much we learn from our members and clients. Thank you for being there.

Best regards,
Paul

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Smobered UpNov 06, 2017 @ 7:02 AM
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Hi ....
I have been what one might call a "serial quitter"  for most of my journey to smobriety.  I've been smoke free for over a year now but I don't let that go to my head. I've been smoke free in the past, for several long stints and fell from grace from sheer arrogance that I could harness my addiction and be an occasional smoker. I have always ended up wrapped in the scornful, laughing arms of nicodemon. 
So my friends, because it has taken me countless tries,  my key to lifelong smobriety would be
DOGGED DETERMINATION,
simply because I persisted, even after so many fails, to get back at the task at hand.  
All of the "keys" mentioned in this thread are important and relevant to whether we will continue to remain the masters of our addiction.  I am in awe of all my fellow members that come here to share their journeys and encourage those of us who stumble occasionally.  Addiction is a heavy load and I am so grateful that I have so many pals to share that load.  It makes it easier to bear no matter at what stage we are in our journey.   
 
Your quitter pal,
Smobered Up.
 
I am an addict aspiring to lifelong smobriety.
 


My Milage:

My Quit Date: 10/15/2016
Smoke-Free Days: 387
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 9,675
Amount Saved: $4,353.75
Life Gained:
Days: 48 Hrs: 2 Mins: 29 Seconds: 11

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am66Nov 05, 2017 @ 8:51 PM
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I agree that it comes down to willpower for those terrible moments - but we all know that they will pass.  Smoke breaks also provided me with a way to remove myself or stepback in a stressful situation.  Still working on finding a ways to remove myself from stressful situations and learn to take a 'break' as a non-smoker.
  


My Milage:

My Quit Date: 7/23/2017
Smoke-Free Days: 106
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 2,120
Amount Saved: $848.00
Life Gained:
Days: 12 Hrs: 10 Mins: 32 Seconds: 10

wimporswimNov 02, 2017 @ 10:29 AM
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For me the key has to be willpower. Much is said about positive self talk and being kind to yourself. Time and a place for those for sure - BUT - there were, and still are, times when I had to get brutal with myself not to cave in. Vix1976 - you are doing so great! Keep it up. And Treepeo - so good to see you still going so strong! (and we both made the 300 club!!!!!)

My Milage:

My Quit Date: 1/3/2017
Smoke-Free Days: 303
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 9,090
Amount Saved: $3,708.72
Life Gained:
Days: 61 Hrs: 2 Mins: 47 Seconds: 25

Vix1976Nov 02, 2017 @ 12:26 AM
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I have to agree the rest all contribute to our success but not giving in is the single most important quality. It’s so easy to be having a bad day and just drive down to the store and buy a pack. My number two is this site, not only for the amazing support from all these wonderful people but the quit meter. I don’t want to give up my 50 days for anything. I fought damn hard to get here and I love watching the numbers climb! It’s empowering!!!

My Milage:

My Quit Date: 9/13/2017
Smoke-Free Days: 50
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 750
Amount Saved: $540.00
Life Gained:
Days: 4 Hrs: 15 Mins: 27 Seconds: 7

Marianne, Quit CoachNov 01, 2017 @ 8:38 PM
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Great one Treepeo- willpower is a big one- having that drive, commitment, determination, resilience, etc.  It takes sweat and tears even to keep going.  All your emotions are invested.  

Thank you for sharing your success with us!  

Feel free to continue to express what is behind your "willpower".  

Marianne

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TreepeoNov 01, 2017 @ 7:23 PM
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Hi Paul,
 
I would have to pick willpower.  Quitting is really hard, and you have to grit your teeth and bear it in order to get through the worst of it.  Everything else you listed is secondary.  They can all play a role, but you have to be willing to tough it out no matter what. 


My Milage:

My Quit Date: 12/29/2016
Smoke-Free Days: 307
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 7,675
Amount Saved: $921.00
Life Gained:
Days: 42 Hrs: 9 Mins: 26 Seconds: 17

Paul, Quit CoachNov 01, 2017 @ 4:22 PM
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Hi everyone, If you could pick just one of these as the key to your success, which would it be, and why? 

Let's all keep the quit today. Repeat again tomorrow. 

Paul

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