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ElronMay 21, 2017 @ 10:44 AM
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Gender: Male
Country: Canada
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I'm not sure if I can add anything more to what has been said Doyle. Other than we all have faced ourselves in the mirror and walked around it to get to the other side. Where we found help to continue the walk day by day and minute by minute. I will be sure to think about you next time I have to reach for a hand to keep going,to be sure to have a free hand back to help you through your hard times. As I have found so much help on this site. Cheers Elron

My Milage:

My Quit Date: 4/11/2017
Smoke-Free Days: 40
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 800
Amount Saved: $464.00
Life Gained:
Days: 6 Hrs: 17 Mins: 18 Seconds: 37

Smoke free 😜

lithan44May 19, 2017 @ 6:36 AM
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Country: Canada
Doyle - you most definitely can and will do this.  You have recognized a pattern and that will help in breaking that pattern.  What I did was play the tape to the end.  That means mentally acknowledge that yes, I wanted a cigarette but what about after that?  I would feel gross, dizzy, disappointed and so on.  Flip that and I would visualize how I would feel overcoming the cravings.  Awesome!  It is not easy in the beginning and that is okay.  That makes you worker harder and use determination.  Try to focus on the long term goal and not short term satisfaction that only brings negative feelings with it. Dig in DEEEEEP and believe in yourself.  We all do!  This is the time!

My Milage:

My Quit Date: 8/14/2010
Smoke-Free Days: 2470
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 24,700
Amount Saved: $12,350.00
Life Gained:
Days: 269 Hrs: 12 Mins: 3 Seconds: 58

Strength

Sarah, Quit CoachMay 18, 2017 @ 10:00 AM
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Joined: Jan 22, 2015 (1:16 PM)
Hello Doyle - thank you for sharing what you are going through with your quit journey. So glad you reached out to the community, as the support is here for you - Treepeo, HHToronto & rosebud brought up some really good helping points. Sounds like what you are going through is frustrating - often we speak to people who hit a 'plateau' at the 3-week mark, where their plan needs to be tweaked in some way to get them over that hump, so know you are not alone. This thread brought up some fantastic points, including reaching out to any and all supports you feel comfortable with, and reflecting on what you need to be prepared to stay quit. Congratulations: you keep coming back to quitting, Doyle, and that takes a lot of strength and courage. We are here for you! Keep writing! Sarah
rosebudMay 18, 2017 @ 7:57 AM
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Hi Doyle. Never quit trying to quit. These slips are part of your personal journey. You'll take something away from each time. Make sure you have all your supports in place to ride out the really tough times. Above all else......don't beat yourself up. As Treepeo said, one day you will know that this is the quit that is different and going to stick. All the best! Rosebud

My Milage:

My Quit Date: 12/16/2015
Smoke-Free Days: 519
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 10,380
Amount Saved: $4,255.80
Life Gained:
Days: 72 Hrs: 8 Mins: 45 Seconds: 54

HHTORONTOMay 17, 2017 @ 10:17 PM
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Country: Canada
I agree with Treepo that starting every 3 weeks must be getting to you. I have gone cold turkey for close for 33 days as of this post and personally never want to go through what I went through that first month every again. So for you to start every 3 weeks is kinda crazy
 
Maybe you need some more support, maybe have that go to person or persons that can talk you out of buying that pack...
 
Well good Luck and its great that you really want to quit and are willing to keep trying :) 


My Milage:

My Quit Date: 4/13/2017
Smoke-Free Days: 35
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 525
Amount Saved: $273.00
Life Gained:
Days: 4 Hrs: 20 Mins: 16 Seconds: 56

TreepeoMay 17, 2017 @ 9:51 PM
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Yikes Doyle, I don't know how you do that.  Going through this process once was enough for me.  I never want to go through it again.
 
I think the problem is that you have to really be committed to quit for good.  You truly have to want to be a non-smoker.  You have to be ready mentally, physically and emotionally.  In the past, I just wasn't there on some level.  This time, it felt different because it was different.  I knew I was prepared to fight like crazy against all of the cravings, even though I knew it was going to be hard.  Hard?  Heck, that is putting it mildly.  It was hell on earth.  But so worth it in the end.
 
It might help you to go through the milestones on this site, because there is a lot of really good food for thought.  And remember, You can do this, you really can.  You just have to be prepared to fight through the cravings until they pass.  And remember all of the reasons why you want to quit smoking.  Those reasons are a great motivator.
 
You are stronger than you think you are, and you can do anything you set your mind to do.  Never give up, and you will be successful.  One day at a time. 


My Milage:

My Quit Date: 12/29/2016
Smoke-Free Days: 140
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 3,500
Amount Saved: $420.00
Life Gained:
Days: 19 Hrs: 6 Mins: 45 Seconds: 56

DoyleMay 17, 2017 @ 4:06 PM
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I seem to get stuck at the 3 week mark.  I always end up buying a pack, smoking about 10 and then throwing away my pack.  I realize this is madness, but I am caught up in this cycle of evil.  I can't seem to get the confidence that I will stay smoke free and feel  like I don't even put up a real fight when the cravings come.  I know that I have to stay focused on my quit, and not give in.