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Vix1976 Oct 15, 2017 (09:44 PM)  


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Hi Jenna Not sure I can add much to the amazing advice here but one thing I thought may help is learning a new habit to deal with anxiety like what’s suggested. But maybe something like meditation might work too. It’s more calming and less stimulating. Might be worth a try.

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My Quit Date: 9/13/2017
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Efram, Moderator Oct 15, 2017 (09:18 PM)  


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Hi All,


Ocean, thanks for the bump! I like that term you used, "re-think." The re-think comes in handy when quitting, not just to find new ways to cope with challenges, but also starting to see cigarettes in a new light. When you say, "It's not smoking that calms me ,,," I can hear that re-thinking taking place!  

One key, then, is finding new ways of managing stress and anxiety. I like the stress balls suggestion, Treepeo, and manderson4, nice to hear that the fidget spinner and phone are helpful distractions for you. Deep breathing is an effective tool for many: the inhale/exhale is a large part of why smoking can feel relaxing in spite of the stimulant effect of nicotine. 

On the phone in the last week I've talked with people who are doing yoga instead, or colouring in adult colouring books, or walking, talking with friends, crocheting, etc. As Paul mentioned earlier, others may consult with their doctor or mental health professional for added support.  

Hope this helps,
Efram 

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Treepeo Oct 15, 2017 (06:54 PM)  


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Hi Ocean,
 
I agree with everything you just said about anxiety and how to deal with it.  We're always going to have stresses in our life, whether we smoke or not.  It's just a matter of how we handle it.
 
When I first quit, I wasn't sure I could really do it.  I certainly did not feel confident.    What I did feel was stubborn and determined.  But it was a really tough go for the first month.
 
But a funny thing has happened.  Since I quit smoking, I have actually become much more confident in other areas of my life.  And that is because I was able to quit smoking, which was the biggest challenge I ever volunteered for.  I figure if I can quit smoking, I can do just about anything.
 
So hang in there, Ocean, because quitting might help you gain some confidence as well.  And that, in turn, will help you deal with the problems that come up from time to time.  It's amazing what a difference quitting smoking can make. 


My Milage:

My Quit Date: 12/29/2016
Smoke-Free Days: 290
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 7,250
Amount Saved: $870.00
Life Gained:
Days: 40 Hrs: 1 Mins: 12 Seconds: 31

Ocean Oct 15, 2017 (01:12 PM)  


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Hi Jenna!  I fell into this category too and I'm starting a new quit and trying to re-think my anxiety (my white-knuckling it!).  I think it's not smoking that calms me, and it's not quitting that should stress me.  It's all of the other stuff that stresses me, and it's real.  Even when I smoke I still get stressed out when I feel I'm not in control, or feel like I have too many responsibilities, or living within my means, lol ... You get the point?
 
Today, it's finances.  I was off work for a while and still haven't caught up, so it's a struggle.  But I can only do/pay what I have, right?  So I have to let go of it, and just do what I can.  I need constant distractions to get my mind of it, and I wish it weren't so, but now I just have to accept that it is and try and cope with the tension until it passes.
 
It's the same with other issues too, my responsibilities.  They're being met, but the stress of meeting them can cause me anxiety!  
 
So I try not to be overwhelmed, because I'm doing it, not avoiding it out of fear.  I think self confidence is a huge part of this journey for me.  But I can't get confidence in quitting until I overcome each little challenge that presents itself.  
 
So I pledge to support you and everyone else in these minor and major accomplishments.  We can do it when fearful or anxious, and if we do, we'll feel more in control and brave and directed.  Notice how I'm not saying that it will cure our anxiety problems though?  I don't think it will, we'll always have vulnerabilities if we're pre-disposed, but I want to feel the confidence that I feel in so many other area's with qitting smoking.  Avoiding the quit just isn't doing it for me.
 
I love this thread, great topic that I so relate too! 


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By the yard it's hard...by the inch it's a cinch!

Treepeo Jul 31, 2017 (01:01 PM)  


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Hi Jenna2014,
 
No ecigs.  Forget about cigs, period.
 
Have you tried a stress ball?  Some people swear by them.  When they get stressed, they hold the ball and squeeze it, and it seems to help.  Just a thought. 


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My Quit Date: 12/29/2016
Smoke-Free Days: 214
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Amount Saved: $642.00
Life Gained:
Days: 29 Hrs: 13 Mins: 19 Seconds: 22

Jenna2014 Jul 31, 2017 (02:05 AM)  


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Thank you so so much for encouragement and support.  I am really happy that  I kicked the habit, it was easy for me as I was not addicted per se, but had cravings whenever the time approaches. I used to smoke 3 to 4 sticks a day so to taper them down and completely stop was not so easy but it was doable.
 
yes, I do miss smoking and the feeling it used to give me...whenever I feel stressed, i felt it calmed me down...somehow I feel i have no rope to hold on when I feel anxious, but I am still there and fighting.  you are right...one stick and i go back tos square one...maybe I should try those e cigs? 
 
I will NOT go back...let the cravings come, will keep on fighting..love you all xx
 
 


My Milage:

My Quit Date: 1/13/2015
Smoke-Free Days: 930
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 3,720
Amount Saved: $372.00
Life Gained:
Days: 131 Hrs: 3 Mins: 17 Seconds: 18

Jenna

manderson4 Jul 27, 2017 (07:21 PM)  


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I have found that when we were smokers we dealt with stress and anxiety by lighting up.  It didnt really help it just seemed that way.  Part of quitting is learning new behaviours and ways of dealing with the stress and anxiety.  it could be something like sucking on a candy or a sharpie. I dont really have cravings I have memories and sometimes they can be intense other times just that.  Quickly distracting myself by pulling out my phone or my fidget spinner helps. 

My Milage:

My Quit Date: 4/16/2017
Smoke-Free Days: 102
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Amount Saved: $5,609.75
Life Gained:
Days: 16 Hrs: 18 Mins: 39 Seconds: 30

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Treepeo Jul 27, 2017 (05:52 PM)  


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Hi Jenna2014,
 
I don't know when the cravings end, if they ever do.  I seem to go through 3 days of cravings at a time, and then they go away.  I don't know what triggers them.
 
What I DO know is that you always have to stick to NOT ONE PUFF EVER.  Don't try to fool yourself into thinking you can have just one.  You can't.  Just one cigarette will start your whole addition back in full swing.  And you have worked too hard to let that happen.
 
I am sorry to hear that you are having such awful anxiety.  But maybe it is not really related to you not smoking.  Perhaps it is hormonal?  Whatever the cause, smoking will not help you. It will just hurt you and make you feel bad about giving in to your addiction.
 
When I had my last bad cravings, I sort of went back to the beginning.  That is, I thought of all of the reasons I wanted to quit in the first place.  I read the milestone on this site again.  I focused on all of the benefits I have experienced since I quit, and I read through the posts here.  And doing all of that got me through it.
 
Stay strong, my friend.  You are worth it. 


My Milage:

My Quit Date: 12/29/2016
Smoke-Free Days: 210
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 5,250
Amount Saved: $630.00
Life Gained:
Days: 29 Hrs: 0 Mins: 46 Seconds: 33

Paul, Quit Coach Jul 27, 2017 (11:13 AM)  


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Hi Jenna2014, thank you for sharing, and congratulations on being smoke free for 2-1/2 years.


It's unfortunate to hear that you still have strong cravings, and that your anxiety has gotten worse since quitting.

I wonder if you are desiring to smoke, or is it the memory of smoking and the desire for calming of anxiety symptoms that you are looking for. You might not desire a cigarette as much as your desire to have less anxiety. 

It would be interesting to know if you or anyone else that has gone through this have been able to get some support from your doctor, or mental health counselor, in order to try and achieve some type of decrease in these symptoms; and therefore, the cravings that go along with that.

One day at a time everyone.
Paul


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Jenna2014 Jul 27, 2017 (06:53 AM)  


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Hello friends
 
I must say this has been a journey. I have quit now is two and half years and it feels good not to run around hiding and smoking. but I must say the cravings really never go away. sometimes i feel like i have stopped like yesterday. I still get very strong urge to smoke but try to distract myself. and I also noted that by quitting, my anxiety has increased which is now blowing up into a full scale panic attacks which I never had before. anything new, I eat or go, i get into a tizzy...I drive now but am not comfortable driving to a new area until I have someone or else i get the attack. my doctor said smoking was hiding the symptoms now its all over.  sometimes I feel maybe one cigarette wont hurt, i can smoke whenever I feel anxiety and not be addicted and keep my self free until i feel the attack or feel anxiety.
 
I wonder why this strong urge after two and a half years? will this ever go???
 
I am not trying to be negative here but also feel others may have the same problem and we can share experiences.
 
thank you!! :) lets stay clean


My Milage:

My Quit Date: 1/13/2015
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Cigarettes Not Smoked: 3,704
Amount Saved: $370.40
Life Gained:
Days: 130 Hrs: 14 Mins: 25 Seconds: 58

Jenna

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