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Got To Feb 17, 2017 (08:56 PM)  


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Hey Kissyme...you are in a really tough situation...and unfortunately you can not make him quit...that is something he has got to want for himself and figure that out  on his own.  Even suggesting to him a quit may cause some problems......leading by example is really good thing .  This quit is yours and only yours you can do it. Coming up with a comprise between the two of you would help...perhaps he could go outside to smoke and sort of make an agreement together to not leave the pack lying around or smoke in front of you for a few months.  I can now stand in a smoking area but it took me almost six months to do that.  Do the six milestones on this site and have a rock solid quit plan for yourself cause those triggers are going to be flying all over the place.....I am rooting for you!!!!  Rockin my Quit....GOT To

My Milage:

My Quit Date: 2/7/2016
Smoke-Free Days: 377
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 9,425
Amount Saved: $4,712.50
Life Gained:
Days: 52 Hrs: 12 Mins: 38 Seconds: 26

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HaveFaith Feb 16, 2017 (05:58 PM)  


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Hi Kissyme.
My husband does still smoke as well.  I really struggled at the beginning with it, and I think thats why I still smoked my morning cigarettes because they were there and available to me.  Finally on the morning of Jan3/17 I said enough was enough, either I am doing this or I'm not.  And here I am 6 weeks later still smoke free!!  Lots of self talk, going back to the reasons why I wanted to quit, the supporters on SHO, anything that get you through, even having a good cry works too!!! LOL.  I am on the patch and using the inhaler as well. I can now go outside when he goes for his cigarette and be alright with it!  I am currently still on step 1 of the patch and still unsure of when I will step down to step 2.  I'm not sure if any of this helps, but do whatever works for you!!! 


My Milage:

My Quit Date: 1/3/2017
Smoke-Free Days: 44
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 792
Amount Saved: $538.56
Life Gained:
Days: 4 Hrs: 3 Mins: 50 Seconds: 29

Marianne, Quit Coach Feb 16, 2017 (10:19 AM)  


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Hello Kissyme,
 
Is your stomach better now?  If not, you can ask your doctor/pharmacist how to ease the comfort. 
 
Re: your partner, it can be challenging yet possible as others have quit when their partner isn't ready to do so.   As Mud Man shared, you can lead the way for him by quitting first. 
 
Wimporswim shared "avoiding:, a great strategy.  To add the other two as well:
 
AVOID, ALTER or ACCEPT

AVOID  what you cannot handle.
      

ALTER  Make a new response to the situation.
       

ACCEPT If the situation  can't be changed in any way, find a way to be more accepting of it.
       
 
Does anyone have any good examples of these three skills that you have used or working on using? 
 
Marianne
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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Mud Man Feb 16, 2017 (12:19 AM)  


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Kissyme, "YOU CAN DO THIS"
 
 
If your husband won't quit, then it's up to you to show him how.
 
Mud Man :)  


My Milage:

My Quit Date: 11/9/2015
Smoke-Free Days: 465
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 13,950
Amount Saved: $7,254.00
Life Gained:
Days: 86 Hrs: 15 Mins: 48 Seconds: 52

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wimporswim Feb 15, 2017 (10:13 PM)  


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Hi Kissyme - My spouse has never smoked but from my own quitting experience I know that from day 1 of my quit until the present day, if I had easy access to a cigarette I would have caved into my cravings. My suggestion would be to avoid situations where you watch your husband smoke and to ask him to hide his cigarettes where you can't find them. This site is full of great posts on dealing with cravings. I hope you can find the ones that work for you! Good luck with your quit. I can do it. You can do it. We can all do it.

My Milage:

My Quit Date: 1/3/2017
Smoke-Free Days: 44
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 1,320
Amount Saved: $538.56
Life Gained:
Days: 8 Hrs: 21 Mins: 13 Seconds: 23

Kissyme Feb 15, 2017 (12:54 PM)  


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I'm taking champix, just started the 1mg twice a day today. My stomach was so sick. I'm 44 and been smoking since I was 17 or so. I smoke a 20 pack in about a 24 hour period. 
I'm wondering if anyone else is quitting or has quit while their partner continues to smoke? My husband isn't quitting and I'm worried that will be my down fall.  

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