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NeedToQuit506 Mar 20, 2017 (11:23 PM)  


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You say that  smoking addiction is no different then liqour or other drugs....iv been smoking since i was 12 and am now 26 am having ALOT of issues quitting

My Milage:

My Quit Date: 3/21/2017
Smoke-Free Days: 0
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 0
Amount Saved: $0.00
Life Gained:
Days: 0 Hrs: 2 Mins: 26 Seconds: 59

Jonny by'e

Slissy Feb 25, 2017 (12:10 PM)  


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This is an old post but so relevant for me and I'm sure so many others. Weather your a few days in or a few years, these posts are beyond inspirational. I feel like I have a little more strength to get through today now. Thanks everyone!

My Milage:

My Quit Date: 2/21/2017
Smoke-Free Days: 4
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 48
Amount Saved: $31.20
Life Gained:
Days: 0 Hrs: 9 Mins: 37 Seconds: 46

Slissy

gertie456 Dec 28, 2016 (10:04 PM)  


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this is a great read for me at this time in my quit journey.  Very inspirational. 

My Milage:

My Quit Date: 1/3/2015
Smoke-Free Days: 725
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 9,425
Amount Saved: $5,183.75
Life Gained:
Days: 101 Hrs: 2 Mins: 51 Seconds: 52

One Day at a Time

Paul, Quit Coach Dec 27, 2016 (12:46 PM)  


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Hi everyone,


An interesting read for those of you who may have struggled during the past few days. If you slipped, here is some good advice.

Though it's better not to tempt fate, in case you've already been there, this might help.

All the best to everyone in our wonderful community.
Paul


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Canuck1969 Feb 20, 2014 (11:27 AM)  


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Braveheart and Sparky - thank you
for yet two more, as always, insightful advice backed up by your experiences.

I am coming up on 19 months of smoke-free liberation!!!!  I tell ya, I have never been more grateful to be a non-smoker than I have THIS mind-numbing winter!  Never have I looked at smokers with such compassion for their addiction as I have this winter.  It took my living a smoke-free life to understand that no one,
including myself, in hindsight, smokes outside in -40 windchill because they
LOVE IT!

Anyhoo (and do NOT be scared reading this, newbies) I have been struggling a bit occasionally over the last 5 weeks as the  monster has come to quietly tap me
on the shoulder, whispering gently in my ear that he misses me and how awesome “just one” would be.  

I've conquered the triggers and have no cravings:  after meals, with alcohol, as a stress reliever, anger management, happy, sad, reward, for a break.  1 1/2 years ago I would have bet the house that I'd never be able to deal with any of these things smoke free without a second thought.  

Seems the monster is coming back to test with a whopper of a couple of triggers. One of them being worn out / tired. At the same time, I am in my dreams, smoking casually and I am mad as heck at myself, and terrified at the notion of quitting again.  Oh, the power of the subconscious. 

The other trigger: My lungs are going through another clearing process. 
This happens every few months and is, at times, a knee buckling trigger.  Like my lungs don’t want to be clean!  Is that like being on a juice cleanse and craving donuts?  haha
Walking by smokers is heavenly again.  I was in Chicago a couple of weeks ago lined up at a Blues club and there was a smoker right near me.  I had to fight like heck not to ask him for one. 

I took a few deep breaths and remembered a few things:  the war I waged
and my vow to NEVER EVER go through the hell that was my quit ever again. 
That I am an addict.  That I didn't actually enjoy smoking at the end.  I was smoking to deal with withdrawal.  I was an addict.  I AM an addict.  I am NO different that anyone who fights for their sobriety and can never sip alcohol again.  Or a drug addict who can never touch their drug of choice again. 

Clearly, I have not permanently stamped out the monster yet, cuz he's still coming around.  I am learning the power of addiction can, if I let it, be bigger than me.  While it's no longer something I am fighting every waking second of every day like I was at the beginning of, I still need to be on my toes because who knows when he will strike.  Thankfully, it’s not most of the time, but he’s still around when I’m feeling weak.  Opportunistic little bas**rd!

There was a regular poster in the early days when I was constantly in here, who vowed he will never be arrogant about this addiction.  Words to live by.  

Ahhh....I feel so much better having
read the posts of 2 of my fave vets who helped me so much during the toughest
parts, the newbies who are fighting the early days with their dukes of
de

We can all do this!!!!

sparky2 Feb 19, 2014 (12:05 AM)  


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So many of us having lived the same live over and over and I know for me it became like the movie Ground hog day. Same thing each time of put on the patch and then by lunch or so take it off and have a smoke. Then would repeat the same thing over and over again. And each time would go why do I fail all the time.
 
 But finally it got through my head that I allowed myself to slip each and every time and found a way to rationalize in my mind. All seems so perfect that I can't quit today and would come up with some bogus excuse why not. Nothing or nobody caused me to fail as I would sabotage it all on my own. My favourite bogus excuse was I missed my buddies at work and would take off the patch and go out and join them. Same thing every time from them was I thought you said this morning you had quit as I bummed one and we would laugh about it.
 
 Today I would be devastated if I allowed to ever go back to smoking. Not only would I throw away over three years of hard work but also would feel so hypocritical to have for so long waged this war to help others to quit only to allow myself to fall into the trap I have tried to keep people out of for years.
 
 So next time you feel yourself slipping and your mind starts formulating the next bogus reason it will use to rationalize why you can't stop really listen to what your mind is saying. Listen the reasoning and logic it has come up with to tell you to pick up that smoke. When I look back at some of the reasons I came up with I say to myself I must have been insane to buy that but yet when we said it back then  to ourselves it all sounds so good.


My Milage:

My Quit Date: 11/19/2010
Smoke-Free Days: 1188
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 29,700
Amount Saved: $11,880.00
Life Gained:
Days: 216 Hrs: 13 Mins: 57 Seconds: 14

It's hard to fail, but it's worse to not even try

hondo Feb 18, 2014 (09:04 PM)  


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Well said Braveheart. If we would only listen to our elders words of wisdom. Thanks for your posts. I loved your take on climbing up the mountain. Everyone is different and are at various stages of their quit. I find that reading from mentors helps immensely. Regards Hondo

My Milage:

My Quit Date: 12/16/2013
Smoke-Free Days: 64
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 960
Amount Saved: $355.20
Life Gained:
Days: 8 Hrs: 8 Mins: 54 Seconds: 41

MIND OVER MATTER  

Altehpwn1 Feb 18, 2014 (04:51 PM)  


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I love this!  I too have had to remind myself that every rationalization is a lie.  Going back to smoking will not fix anything.


My Milage:

My Quit Date: 12/22/2013
Smoke-Free Days: 58
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 870
Amount Saved: $341.04
Life Gained:
Days: 5 Hrs: 2 Mins: 41 Seconds: 51

breanna61 Feb 18, 2014 (03:38 PM)  


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Thank you Braveheart; I find the posts from successful "veterans" of the site like yourself extremely encouraging and helpful!!

My Milage:

My Quit Date: 2/8/2014
Smoke-Free Days: 10
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 180
Amount Saved: $72.00
Life Gained:
Days: 1 Hrs: 7 Mins: 11 Seconds: 14

Jennifer, Quit Coach Feb 18, 2014 (09:32 AM)  


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Good Morning braveheart,
 
As always, we so appreciate when you come by and share some of your quit wisdom.....

Rereading this again I can see so many gems that will prove so useful to members...." no matter how far you are along in your personal journey ....you never have to relive those days again IF you continue to commit to being free"....
 
Thanks for coming by!
 
 
Jennifer, Moderator

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Breathturn Feb 18, 2014 (04:30 AM)  


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Braveheart,

Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts. I was about to dash off to the nearest 24 hour gas station for a pack, but this line in particular gave me pause: "Some will have a hard time simply saying farewell to what may be seen as a long time friend, or crutch. Smoking deserves no such recognition or be romanticized." A few minutes ago, I didn't just crave a cigarette, I pined for one like an 8 year old longs for their lost kitten. Emotions are huge triggers for me. I used to automatically reach for my pack after something upset me even a little. Cigarettes were comforting, a part of my self-care routine as much as brushing my teeth. Junkie thoughts. Your words ferried me across that horrible urge.

Your 7 year quit is also inspirational. :) Congratulations!

Straydog Feb 17, 2014 (11:13 PM)  


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Excellent bit there Braveheart. That speaks to me in volumes.
 
Thanks
 
Allan 


My Milage:

My Quit Date: 1/30/2014
Smoke-Free Days: 18
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 630
Amount Saved: $365.40
Life Gained:
Days: 3 Hrs: 14 Mins: 37 Seconds: 31

Gotta get it done.

braveheart Feb 17, 2014 (11:04 PM)  


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The following is something I composed in 2009 but never posted. I keep a copy (log) of all my posts so I recently re-read this and feel that to some struggling with their journeys it might strike a chord. Here goes!
 
We all bring a common desire to stop smoking to our quits but each of us is different as how we will react during the process. Some will have a hard time simply saying farewell to what may be seen as a long time friend, or crutch. Smoking deserves no such recognition or be romanticized. Cigarettes, not smokers, simply deserve to be demonized for what it may be doing to you and what it has done to countless others.

I may not be the best person to speak to this as this is my 7th attempt. Then again, that experience together with the success of this current quit might make me well suited to address this.

You do not want to slip or lose your quit... ever! To succeed at quitting you need to give it time to earn your freedom and not obsess over the loss of the addiction. It does get easier as over time but 10, 20, 30 or more years of learned habits are not defeated by a pill, a patch or a gum. Assists help get over the initial bump but in the end it is you... you alone, with support from others, that will ultimately set you free.

Slipping, while regretful and demoralizing, does happen to many. For some it is almost a rite of passage to the next level of a quit that is stronger and far more determined. To the addict any excuse to have just one at a time of duress seems surprisingly rational, but is the exact opposite. To lose a quit is very hard and for those trying this for the 1st time in particular you will be so much better off realizing that you only want to go through this once... and that is all it will take if you set your mind to the task at hand... say NO to temptations and depend on N.O.P.E. (not one puff ever).

I am sure that it would be deemed inhumane torture to subject a person to exposure to nicotine for even just days and then let the person go through withdrawal, then repeat the process. Don’t torture yourselves. No matter how far you are along in your personal journey... you never have to relive those days again IF you continue to commit to being free of the addiction. Good luck...


My Milage:

My Quit Date: 4/18/2008
Smoke-Free Days: 2131
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 59,668
Amount Saved: $23,867.20
Life Gained:
Days: 406 Hrs: 18 Mins: 16 Seconds: 51

Your choice... be free!

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